whatcha ona bout girl??

whatcha ona bout girl??
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Monday, May 13, 2013

ON OFFERING AN OLIVE BRANCH


Its nice to see the world ……..and then see it anew.  Enough has been said of the past.
And so its time to bring the good stuff.  My kids deserve that….there are many things they need to hear....questions they cant get answers to......help they cant get because im not there.  Support that vanished.   Anger because they dont have the guidance they deserve.
I can only offer an olive branch.
Its a good thing.  In the face of certain criticism.  Being blasted.  Being shown the door.  taking your own medicine.  Being called a hypocrite.

Its worth it.

Your character depends on it.  What you see in the mirror depends on it.  How well you sleep at night depends on it.  So....dont worry...its not important.
Dont offer an olive branch.  Dont reach out.  Make the other person crawl for forgiveness.  Make them pay.  They owe you dont they?  Feel good .....youre right ...theyre wrong.....right?

right?

Offering an olive branch is nothing more than saying "i am willing to do my part to make something broken....heal."  Offering an olive branch doenst say "you owe me" .  You cant be guilted into it.  You cant offer it at gun point.  You cant point a gun to get someone to accept it.  You cant give conditions for it.

You just...................offer it.

It doesnt hurt.  It doesnt cost.
An olive branch isnt 20%.  It isnt "lets be civil and see what the other person does".  An olive branch doenst "feel out where we stand".  You  OFFER an olive branch.
OFFER
It doenst come with conditions.  Or commandments.  Or demands.
If you have the chance.  Hold back.  Dont give in.  Dont appear weak.  You can do it.  Just suck it down.  You can be strong and just ...........dont offer an olive branch.  Make them work for it.  Thats fair.

right?

Cut an olive branch and give it away.
An olive tree has many branches.  Givng one away gives you strength.
Im not sayng trade punches with the devil.   The devil doenst accept olive branches.  He's busy on his knees being free.  Do you want to be free ....or fix a relationship worth having?  The one with the olive branch gets to decide.
What will you do with it?
Hold on to it ...or give it away?  Im not sure but holding onto an olive branch really doesn’t yield anything.  You have to give it away for It to have meaning and worth.
Is that always the answer.  I wouldn’t think so.  For some…Im sure receiving an olive branch is just an open invitation to abuse, or use.  I admit I have been guilty of not practicing what I preach sometimes.  But that doesn’t invalidate that what I say is true.  Make peace where you can.
Besides….  I rather like olives…..let me know if you want any.

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