whatcha ona bout girl??

whatcha ona bout girl??
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Tuesday, January 19, 2010

The fairytale, a polliwog, and magnum PI


I want to thank all you girls for spending time at ma blog. It makes me feel rather good when you leave a comment and I preciate it! …big smile……
When I was a private investigator I saw plenty of folks pretty much……in torment. Yeah dude…guys…girls…it didn’t make any difference. People’s lives were getting torn up. Searching for answers. Searching for someone. Making themselves into someone…… different. I remember that time for myself and I was frantic to uncover the truth. That’s why I got into the PI thing in the first place. To kinda help folks get through it cause I had been there maself.
An old girlfriend of mine said “I don’t understand why you can take two, intelligent, educated people, who are in love……….but you can’t make their marriage work.” I have to admit…...that befuddled me too. To her discredit….she’s on her third marriage right now……Im sure shes thinking third times a charm and ahm thinkin…....three strikes and your out. Yeah dude, I have a feeling this one will end up on her scrap heap too. Really I should go easy on her…… affairs of the heart sometimes sound like an episode of unsolved mysteries. And Im no Robert Stack. LOL More Like Leonard Nimoy on “In search of”……… who thinks he’s Magnum PI. instead of ……….Monk. Now I cant take credit here.

Where you going?
What you looking for?
You know those boys
Don't want to play no more with you
It's true

If you’re looking for a prince …then the swamp is no place to find anything but frogs. What’s a princess doing in the swamp anyway? I guess some turn out to be lucky frogs ifn ya get ma drift. LOL I guess if you follow that tale more closely …..Doesn’t the frog have to TURN into a prince? Oh dude. LOL fairytale…. FAIL. I think people normally think the moral is….. you have to go through a lot of losers to find Mr.right.. .I had someone tell me they thought it meant “don’t believe what guys say” I’m not so sure that’s the ONLY message. I don’t believe you can CHANGE someone else into what you want.. You probably don’t either. Yes….I am a sooooper genius.
I have to admit I hide a bit of myself when I start dating someone. If I told you I LOVED jazz……. Im not so sure the look on your face would be very approving. There I said it. I’m guilty. I’m not as forthcoming about myself upfront. This is NOT good. I preach about communication and…….I’m NOT taking my own advice. Yeah dude…gotta work on that.
I think most would take offense if your partner suggested you “change” something about yourself. Enter……..the divorce. Oh yeah dude…we got some changin agoin on now! But ya know? I hear a lot of people say the relationship has “changed” or the partner has “changed” and that its NOT what it used to be. I don’t hear many folks say that “they’re” the one that’s changed. It’s always the partner. I think that’s interesting. I’m pretty big on TRYING to look at my own shortcomings before I decide it’s the enemies fault. Never the less… what in this world stays the same?

Sister Christian
Oh the time has come
And you know that you're the only one
To say O.K.

Bring it……….bring some compatibility. You know? It takes a confident frog not to be jealous or controlling. I AM happy in my skin. If I do my part right…… Im bringing out the best in my lover….not changing them. I see a lot of frogs dead in the road. They probably deserve to have the $%!T squashed out of them. I’m still learning…....a polliwog in the rough. If I’m lucky….I just might turn into………a frog. I think that’s ok………I just………. Want another tadpole to love and spoil along the way.

29 comments:

The Invisible Seductress said...

....sending tadpole love to the most handsome and smart "frog" I know!!!! They don't make frogs like you down here in Slocala!!! What's up with that???!! Retired Circus performers and in-breeders- yes--but-- a good ole' fashioned frog--not so much!!!....laughing

Seneca said...

Man. Every post of yours I read I want to shout AMEN!!....but I am at school and that wouldn't be appropriate....

You have a good head on your shoulders Trey. I know. I know. Silly to hear from a phresh 20 year old. Buuut what I have observed is people your age are making the same mistakes as people my age simply because they don't look inward. (Check yo self peeps!)

f1trey said...

@ Invisible- Yes Im afraid alligator alley would be the end of me! frogs dont do so well there do they?

hehehe tadpole love.....im thinkin muskrat love! hahaha

@ Seneca- :) Yeah.....ya know you would think that with time people would figure some of this stuff out! I know I see alot of folks having a rough time......I thought you young guns had it made! LOL

Bombshell BLISS said...

You should be teaching classes.

f1trey said...

@ Bombshell- LOL LOL what would i teach!???

"Seattle" Heather said...

I agree. I wish more men would listen to Trey. He is onto something when he writes...although he has a hard time following his own advice at times and turning off his body parts and thinking clearly...but I think he's working on it! :) Wink Wink.

Ily said...

BUT...there has to come a point when you'll want to stop hiding and maybe tattoo JAZZ MAN on your forehead, right? :)

Take me or leave me...life's too short for all this bs! That's how I feel these days.

honkeie2 said...

old fairy tales have so much more meaning to them than most people will ever know. life lessons cannt not be taught, they have to done in a trial by fire kind of way. insanity is defined by doing something over and over and over again and getting the same results then doing it again and thinking the next time will be different.

f1trey said...

@ Heather- I am LAUGHING!!!! yes Im onto ...something! im not sure what ....but its something! :)

@ Ily- yes....eventually that does come out... I need to work on making sure it comes out sooner!!

@ Honk- I think so too! cool....

Eternally Distracted said...

Me thinks you are going to have a few princess' chasing you!!

Dutch donut girl said...

I don't believe in Prince/Princess Charming but I do believe that there is someone for everyone out there.

f1trey said...

@ Eternal- LOL what would a tadpole do with a princess?? hehehe thats sweet! keepun ma eyeballs peeled!

@ Dutch- even for dutch doughnut lovers!

SKB said...

Um. Amen. AMEN. AAAAAAAAMMMMEEEEEENNNNNN!!! (I'll yell it in the courthouse, it's ok!) Tripping along with eyes wide shut is all too common in folks... took ME a loooong time to look in ME... funny thing is, the last one I knew the bad stuff all along, knew it wouldn't change, and STILL expected something different eventually... must be insanity. ;)

Just telling it like it is said...

OHgosh I can't tell you how many times I wanted to uncover the truth.,..but then when I found it it wasn't pretty...I'm glad these days I can trust Logistic guy...cause without that one has nothing...
pantie dropper investigator!!!

Carolina Girl said...

"affairs of the heart sometimes sound like an episode of unsolved mysteries." LOL So true :)

PS What is this about you lifting 400 lbs at the gym??!! Wha??? Yes, I stalk your tweets. :)

f1trey said...

@ SKB- blame it on the gradient aviator glasses. hehehehe

@ Just- that is so cool you trust each other! Isnt that just the best?!

@ Carolina- youre justa tweet stalkin suthern gal! :) drivin men from NY (or PA) crazy!!

Just telling it like it is said...

Yeah...I mean I always have my feelers up, but he seems to be truthful every time I look around the corner...He proves me wrong...Man I hate being wrong

Christiejolu said...

Wow great post. Most of my relationships end....badly. LOL! I am convinced I am relationship challenged. I don't want to change anyone. And I especially don't want anyone changing me. But you are right, that is what everyone seems to want as soon as they are in a serious relationship.

Alice in Wonderland said...

Hummm! What do you think of English girls?
I'm looking for a tadpole, but all I get are snakes!
HELP!!!!

f1trey said...

@ Just- hehehehe I hate when youre wrong too! except this time! :)

@ CJ- we will have to work on you!any girl whos lookin for rock stars cant be all bad!

@ Alice- I think any country that has jenson button AND lewis hamilton is THE BOMB!!! please step away from the wankin snakes ma love!

tattytiara said...

Sometimes when people say their partner changed I wonder if they haven't just evolved out of the relationship and are actually trying to be gracious.

Christiejolu said...

I was just reading through some of your old posts. It is refreshing to see a man who seems to have learned from mistakes. And it is also cool to read a mans honest views on the mistakes women make as well.

f1trey said...

@ Tatty- Yeah..... ya know.....I tend to think im the SAME person...hmmmm and youre right ..i mean we all change...wonder why we cant grow together???

@ CJ- thank you so much! WOW! I love hearing that from people! (Not that I made alot of mistakes!) LOL but I like knowing what makes a woman on my arm tick...... :) cool.....

Blasé said...

I see you've got Dutch Donut girl reading your blog. She has got some BIG knockers...and smart as a Whip!

Julie said...

I'm here getting caught up on my blog reading!!! And thanks, I'll be singing Sister Christian all night!

SkitzoLeezra said...

How about "know your audience" before communicating your love for jazz? Get her to admit something less than enthralling and then ya both have something on each other thus, your admissions cannot be used as a "deal breaker".

f1trey said...

@ Schitzo- what a smart idea... I like it.....ill get back to ya ifn it works next time!!

Linda Medrano said...

We do change. Every atom of our being is different that it was when we were born. Married 20 years, and we're still changing, evolving, re-defining and learning. It's all good. But don't go into thinking that Christian will become a Muslin; that dog will become a cat; that druggie will get straight. Ain't gonna happen. Magic is for fairy tails.

f1trey said...

@ Linda- yeah! very true! Ilike solving problems using reality much more than hoping something will change!