Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Torturetown, the goalie, and a chair is still a chair
Oh dude…..the neighbors up the street were HARD to associate with….I’m pretty sure they wanted it that way. Im telling you……this bunch put the dysfunctional in dysfunctional family. So uptight, never outside, no emotion….they had a daughter; she went to an all girl’s school and met a few girlfriends there. So…….I was out of the picture as far as a love interest goes. But the parents……they didn’t even like each other!!!!!!….it must have been miserable to live in torturetown like that….The house was lifeless and quiet and so was their marriage. Now I can’t take credit here.
A chair is still a chair, even when there's no one sittin' there
But a chair is not a house and a house is not a home
When there's no one there
Yeah dude….its depressing….I think a lot of married couples struggle. Yeah…. Im a soooper genius. I see a lot of people unhappy in their singleness, pining for someone to complete themselves. Agonizing over lost love….whats the goal here??? Do you want to be married….or happy?? Do you want a successful relationship or a failed marriage???
I think women have a lot more to lose than men when a marriage fails because they have usually invested more time in the fantasy of marriage rather than the reality of a relationship. HEAR ME…..when girls are playing house and dolls …guys are throwing rocks at trees…….You want to be a good mom….we want to be good at throwing rocks at trees. You want to raise a family…we want to be good at throwing rocks at trees. Its even clear that the marriage ceremony is the woman’s day….a mans responsibility is……show up and don’t be drunk. Doesn’t that tell you something? It speaks to ME!!! You can put the relationship in the toilet…suffer abuse…..sometimes even cheating…but as long as you stay MARRIED….I hear women speak of marriage as “the goal” … If that’s your goal then I might as well be a goalie. The goal is a healthy happy relationship. A mans measure is whether he is marriage material?????? No wonder girls are pissed off……look at the guy sitting next to you…….has he spent his life preparing to be a husband and father???? An unhappy marriage might as well be a prison of failure. Parole is sounding PRETTY good……
When I climb the stairs and turn the key
Oh, please be there, sayin' that you're still in love with me,
I admit it…guys want to be good at throwing rocks…no where in the rock throwing manual does it say DON’T yell and write down all your checks.
Bring it…..…bring the right priorities. Happy people make happy relationships (and marriages). Guys are sorrowfully lacking in understanding what it means to be a good husband and lover. Being dark, mysterious and a bad boy doesn’t make me an ideal catch but Im lucky….its taken me a long time to get that a woman needs to feel safe and secure. Im willing to bet that women can be just as unprepared for the hardship of marriage too because the fantasy comes first while the reality of communication, compromise and marital strife gets swept under the carpet.
Hand me some rocks will ya??